Judging Others: A Hindrance to Kindness

I am currently reading and enjoying the book Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother by Carolyn Mahaney. I had heard several great things about this book in past months. Then, when we were visiting Grace and Truth Bible Church in Oregon, I learned that their ladies had just gone through the book. I really wanted to know the things that the GTBC ladies were learning, so I purchased my own copy from GTBC.

Today I was struck by chapter seven--"The Rewards of Kindness". Carolyn Mahaney talks about the essence of kindness and goodness and then the hindrances of them as well; hindrances like anger, bitterness, and judging. I sometimes, sadly, find that I think badly about someone only to find out later that I was wrong. When I judge others, I am "engaging in evil activity" as Mahaney properly calls it.

I loved a little poem that she posted in the chapter. It is quite comical:

A woman was waiting at an airport one night,
With several long hours before her flight.
She hunted for a book in the airport shop,
Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.
She was engrossed in her book, but happened to see,
That the man sitting beside her, as bold as could be,
Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag between,
Which she tried to ignore, to avoid a scene.
She read, munched cookies, and watched the clock,
As the gutsy "cookie thief" diminished her stock.
She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by,
Thinking, If I wasn't so nice, I would blacken his eye!
With each cookie she took, he took one too.
When only one was left, she wondered what he'd do.
With a smile on his face and a nervous laugh,
He took the last cookie and broke it in half.
He offered her half, as he ate the other.
She snatched it from him and thought, Oh brother,
This guy has some nerve and he's also rude.
Why, he didn't even show any gratitude!
She had never known when she had been so galled,
And sighed with relief when her flight was called.
She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate,
Refusing to look back at the "thieving ingrate."
She boarded the plane and sank in her seat,
Then sought her book, which was almost complete.
As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise:
There were her cookies in front of her eyes.
If mine are here, she moaned with dispair,
Then the others were his and he tried to share!
Too late to apologize, she realized with grief,
That she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief!
{Nancy Wilson, The Fruit of Her Hands (Moscow, Ida:Canon Press 1997), p.33.}

Lord, help me not to judge others! And help my friends to read this wonderful book:)


  1. cute sakes! Hope you are having a good day today! xoxo

  2. Sarah, a good friend gave me her copy of this book when we were in gville over christmas. i have loved it loved it loved it. although, i can say it is easier all read than done :)
    it may be the clearest most challenging yet simply stated biblical advice that i've ever come across.
    i'm reading all the chapters out of order and have read some of them twice already. it stays on my night table and sometimes i'm rebuked by just glancing at the cover!
    glad you are enjoying it too!

  3. Thanks for sharing! I needed that reminder as I think of a specific circumstance in my life today.

    And that story was a great reminder. I can't believe I had forgotten about it. I think I laughed as hard this time as I did the first time I read it. What a great way to get a point across.

  4. Great post. Isn't it terrible how we can judge others so effortlessly. Our mind just automatically does that and often (in my case, anyway :) it is negative.

    I will have to check out this book.

  5. That poem is too funny. Nate and I are constantly laughing about how I quietly fume about things like that and he just says what's on his mind, fixes it, and moves on. Oh, to be more that way...

    I'll be looking into getting that book. Thanks for the tip! :)

  6. I know this is wayyy late.. over a year.. but I came across this entry (because of the title) and said to myself " Uh,, what?" But..I think because your theologically sound. You can read a book like this and not be influenced. But those who don't know truth from error, can be heavily influenced, and be led astray. I do know that the pastor admited that he did not believe in a hell, and that he basically believes all will end up in heaven. He was on the White Horse Inn, or the dividing light (can't remember) when he said that. I try and stay away from books like this or any books that are not theologically sound like the Rob bell books and films. I just don't see the point of wasting my mind on things that don't edify me.

    But,I am glad to read your entry. It was interesting.


  7. oh dear, Christina,
    you must be referring to a different Mahaney than the one that I mention here.....

    CJ and Carolyn Mahaney are very theologically sound, believe that there is a hell, and that only those who are called and saved by God will be in Heaven.... This is a book that I highly recommend.... you can buy it at the book table at church too.


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