Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus

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A few weeks ago, Steve and I gathered with several friends to begin discussing Elyse Fitzpatrick's new book, Give Them Grace. We decided to meet at a local coffee shop for dessert, sans the children. I have thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and highly recommend it to you, but even more so, would recommend that you try going through the book with a few local friends for prayer and encouragement. Our next meeting is coming up soon and I am looking forward to it. Below are a few quotes from the book that have been very challenging to me.............

Christians know that the gospel is the message unbelievers need to hear. We tell them that they can't earn their way into heaven and that they have to trust in Jesus alone for their goodness. But then something odd happens when we start training the miniature unbelievers in our own home. We forget everything we know about the deadliness of relying on our own goodness and we teach them that christianity is all about their behavior and whether, on any given day, God is pleased or displeased with them. It's no wonder that so many of them ( some estimates are as high as 88% but none are under 60% ) are lost to utter rebellion or to works-based cults such as Mormonism as soon as they are free to make an independent choice.

It's the premise of this book that the primary reason the majority of kids from Christian homes stray from the faith is that they never really heard it or had it to begin with. They were taught that God wants them to be good, that poor Jesus is sad when they disobey, and that asking Jesus into their heart is the breadth and depth of the gospel message.

Let's face it: most of our children believe that God is happy if they're "good for goodness' sake." We've transformed the holy, terrifying, magnificent, and loving God of the Bible into Santa and his elves. And instead of transmitting the gloriously liberating and life-changing truths of the gospel, we have taught our children that what God wants from them is morality. We have told them that being good ( at least outwardly ) is the be-all and end-all of their faith. This isn't the gospel; we're not handing down Christianity. We need much less of Veggie Tales and Barney and tons more of the radical, bloody, scandalous message of God made man and crushed by his Father for our sin.


  1. Definitely going to get this book! Thanks for posting this! This is something I've been thinking about a lot. I want to pass on to my children the awesomeness of God, his amazing sacrifice, etc... I've been amazed at how quickly and easily Kiersten has been awed by princesses, Mickey Mouse, etc... It's so exciting and real to her, but then I fall short to pass on excitement about the Gospel to her. I find myself overwhelmed at how to do this, and I don't want her to think that rules are what make the Gospel! Thank you for sharing this - I'm so excited to start this book!

  2. Jenni-it is so good--I will be interested to know your thoughts!

  3. So glad you wrote about this! I have a couple of her other books, and this one sounds really good. Congratulations by the way, even though I am so late!!

  4. thank you, Paige, for the congratulations! We are very excited about little boy #2 ;-) Let me know what you think about the book too!


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