Several weeks ago I began reading The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. I've both laughed in agreement and furrowed my brow in sadness while reading this book. Kondo writes that, "the results show that tidying has changed my clients' way of thinking and their approach to life. In fact, it has changed their future ... When you put your house in order, you put your affairs and your past in order, too. As a result, you can see quite clearly what you need in life and what you don't, and what you should and shouldn't do."
Following the afore mentioned paragraph, Kondo lists a few testimonials from former clients. The second testimonial reads, "Your course taught me to see what I really need and what I don't. So I got a divorce. Now I feel much happier." This is where I would disagree with the KonMari method, the belief that everything should bring you joy and if it doesn't you root it out of your life. I read that Kondo is expecting her first baby in the next couple of months and I can't help but anxiously wonder how her ideaology will fit into the fast approaching need to pour out herself, putting aside her desires and happiness, for the joy (and life) of another. (I also have a zillion questions for Kondo concerning her marriage, but I digress.)
Even though I deeply disagree with Kondo's ideaology as it relates to people, I really appreciate her thoughts as they relate to things. I will admit that this book has brought many, many outbursts of laughter. This quote is one of my favorites-- "Have you ever had the experience where you thought what you were doing was a good thing but later learned that it had hurt someone? At the time, you were totally unconcerned, oblivious to the other person's feelings. This is somewhat similar to the way many of us treat our socks." Kondo is pleading with her reader to never! ball up! your socks! Never! Your socks have worked hard for you. They need rest. You must gently fold them and thank them, as you put them away, for how they have served you. So, there's that side of the book. (smile) But I will tell you, Kondo had me out of my bed at eleven o'clock at night refolding my husband's underwear drawer. And not only that, she also inspired both my husband and me to empty out our closets by the time we reached chapter two.
Over the last couple of years I have made a concerted effort to pair down our belongings. I have more work to do but I am thankful for the direction in which my home is headed. I've noticed, since moving into our new home, that tidying up (not deep cleaning) my entire home takes around twenty minutes at the most. This is a far cry from what it used to take. And that said, photographs can be deceitful-- please know that my bedroom is rarely, if ever, this clean. There seems to always be a dirty diaper hanging out on the end of my 50/50 unmade bed, clothes that never made it to the laundry basket are here, there, and everywhere on the floor, and a smattering of toys and books accompany everything else. I am learning, though, that tidying up my home is easy when my home isn't crowded with unnecessary things. Rooms can be simple and beautiful. And that is what I am trying to accomplish in our bedroom. It's definitely a process and a good one at that.
p.s. I've had my eye on West Elm's mid-century bed for about a year and am hoping to add that to our home soon.
p.s.s. Those beautiful shutters you see are from Blinds.com. They are real wood and really beautiful. I love the absence of curtains in our bedroom and the clean lines of the shutters. A++ in my book.